I was just pondering over what I've been through in my relationship and wondering why things eventually change.
The First phase of a relationship is where everything is rosy. Everything is blissful. You love the other person and you are learning everything about them. You are in love with every aspect of his personally, even though right then you do not know him that well. That's the part everyone just loves. You want to be with him/her in every second of the day.
However, with time, you move to the Second phase of a relationship where you start to notice things about the significant other that you did not before. Like how he likes to leave the toilet seat up, or how she has a phobia of always cleaning. This is where you really start to know about each other and some of the bad habits start to irritate you.
The Third phase is where you are very comfortable with each other. You know all about his/her bad habits and are learning to deal with it. Most of my friends who are in this phase, realize that their significant other are completely different form what they had portrayed themselves to be. This is where "we need to talk" conversation comes in, where its either heading towards a break up or a compromise with ground rules.
The Fourth and last phase of a relationship if the third phase lasted, is where the couple has accepted each other and know about the bad, annoying habits of the other and yet, still love each other like crazy.
Putting these in words is easy, so is reading about them, but what I've found through experience and observation, is that it's a lot harder to be in a real relationship. It takes so much more than just reading about it. It takes effort to create a fairytale not just watching a movie n wishing your life was the same.
Sometimes finding the right partner is difficult and when a relationship fails, they blame each other, "She/he was the wrong one". The pathetic excuse couples have been using since ages.
So which phase are YOU in?
i do not really agree with "She/he was the wrong one". The pathetic excuse couples have been using since ages." finding the right partner means that you re in search,of compatibility,some find it in appearence,while others in personality. when a relationship fails..(depending on the basis it failed) it might be the fault of one of the partners notably for the following reasons: cheating, unsatisfaction on the emotional or physical aspect of the relationship...therefore this might not always be a "pathetic excuse"!
ReplyDeleteSome people do have great expectations when it comes to love,this is so true when you say "to create a fairytale not just watching a movie n wishing your life was the same."...a relationship is so unpredictable..the different phases help us better understand and situate ourselves.And we cannot always fall on the "right one" at first,second or even third go..!