I recently had a chat with a friend and his comment got me thinking. People in general have a very jaded view of the kamasutra. People believe it is only a book of sexual positions. However, this sacred hindu book is so much more than that.
Kamasutra deals with a variety of issues, ONE of which is is the sexual positions. "But you people invented the kamasutra, and yet preach abstinence." my friend John (fictional name) had said. Apparently, he had been reading a book about Hindu culture and was telling me that it was ridiculous to preach restraint and create a book on sex. John, like many people, have the wrong idea.
Kamasutra, is not a book only about sex or sexual positions, but also about the Hindu tradition. According to which, it clearly states that sex should be performed with restraint. Now how can that be, you ask?
Well its easy, people should not over do sex, and it has to be 'done' only when the two individuals are married to each other. I know that sound really old fashioned, but the kamasutra WAS written years and years ago.
It deals with how to lead a peaceful family life, where no one cheats and how a couple should live peacefully. I've seen ads about how men can grow their penis, well, for everyone really wanting to do that, kamasutra divulges natural ways of doing that.
Contrary to what many believe, Hinduism is not a restrictive practice, but most precisely a disciplinary one. It does not prevent people from having sex, but only sets some Reasonable ground rules for it. According to Hinduism, one amongst the four goals of life, is "Kama" which means desire. This clearly dictates that one should indulge in pleasure but in a responsible manner.
In addition, John had also said that Hinduism preaches abstinence, what he did not pay attention to was the age where one should practice that. Hinduism says there is a time for everything, enjoyment of sexual pleasures and of renouncing it. It is when a person reaches the "Vanaprastha Ashrama" that is the stage where he has well lived and performed his duties as a married man or woman, he should start to retire and devote most of his life looking for inner peace than physical pleasures.
Hindusim also states that some may want to remain a bachelor for life, but does not impose this on anyone. It should be noted that even hindu sages of the ancient time had wives and children. This meant that they were leading a very much active sexual life but when time came to focus more on inner peace, they were not bound by sex or physical pleasures.
What do YOU think about this book?
Sunday 21 August 2011
The phases of a relationship.
I was just pondering over what I've been through in my relationship and wondering why things eventually change.
The First phase of a relationship is where everything is rosy. Everything is blissful. You love the other person and you are learning everything about them. You are in love with every aspect of his personally, even though right then you do not know him that well. That's the part everyone just loves. You want to be with him/her in every second of the day.
However, with time, you move to the Second phase of a relationship where you start to notice things about the significant other that you did not before. Like how he likes to leave the toilet seat up, or how she has a phobia of always cleaning. This is where you really start to know about each other and some of the bad habits start to irritate you.
The Third phase is where you are very comfortable with each other. You know all about his/her bad habits and are learning to deal with it. Most of my friends who are in this phase, realize that their significant other are completely different form what they had portrayed themselves to be. This is where "we need to talk" conversation comes in, where its either heading towards a break up or a compromise with ground rules.
The Fourth and last phase of a relationship if the third phase lasted, is where the couple has accepted each other and know about the bad, annoying habits of the other and yet, still love each other like crazy.
Putting these in words is easy, so is reading about them, but what I've found through experience and observation, is that it's a lot harder to be in a real relationship. It takes so much more than just reading about it. It takes effort to create a fairytale not just watching a movie n wishing your life was the same.
Sometimes finding the right partner is difficult and when a relationship fails, they blame each other, "She/he was the wrong one". The pathetic excuse couples have been using since ages.
So which phase are YOU in?
The First phase of a relationship is where everything is rosy. Everything is blissful. You love the other person and you are learning everything about them. You are in love with every aspect of his personally, even though right then you do not know him that well. That's the part everyone just loves. You want to be with him/her in every second of the day.
However, with time, you move to the Second phase of a relationship where you start to notice things about the significant other that you did not before. Like how he likes to leave the toilet seat up, or how she has a phobia of always cleaning. This is where you really start to know about each other and some of the bad habits start to irritate you.
The Third phase is where you are very comfortable with each other. You know all about his/her bad habits and are learning to deal with it. Most of my friends who are in this phase, realize that their significant other are completely different form what they had portrayed themselves to be. This is where "we need to talk" conversation comes in, where its either heading towards a break up or a compromise with ground rules.
The Fourth and last phase of a relationship if the third phase lasted, is where the couple has accepted each other and know about the bad, annoying habits of the other and yet, still love each other like crazy.
Putting these in words is easy, so is reading about them, but what I've found through experience and observation, is that it's a lot harder to be in a real relationship. It takes so much more than just reading about it. It takes effort to create a fairytale not just watching a movie n wishing your life was the same.
Sometimes finding the right partner is difficult and when a relationship fails, they blame each other, "She/he was the wrong one". The pathetic excuse couples have been using since ages.
So which phase are YOU in?
Wednesday 3 August 2011
About Me
Hello world!
My name is Manisha K. I am a law student (nerdy right?). The goal is to be a legal adviser at Accenture. Its weird actually putting my goal into words. Kind of like writing the lines of my fate....O.o
My one main aspiration is to be a known author. Being an avid reader, i am fascinated by the world words alone can create.
Being a very moody person, i get to thinking about a range of things which are sometimes not related to my life at all. It seems like i got way too much free time to be thinking about all the things the world can offer.
So this is my blog and all the thoughts of my crazy mind
Ja Ne for now
<3 <3 <3 <3
My name is Manisha K. I am a law student (nerdy right?). The goal is to be a legal adviser at Accenture. Its weird actually putting my goal into words. Kind of like writing the lines of my fate....O.o
My one main aspiration is to be a known author. Being an avid reader, i am fascinated by the world words alone can create.
Being a very moody person, i get to thinking about a range of things which are sometimes not related to my life at all. It seems like i got way too much free time to be thinking about all the things the world can offer.
So this is my blog and all the thoughts of my crazy mind
Ja Ne for now
<3 <3 <3 <3
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